Build Yourself Back Up When It’s All Falling Down…

What do you do when you find something you are good at and put your all into it and spend so much money to see it prosper and work so hard to see it grown and set a date to put your hard work on display for everybody and price it too low because what it is really worth… nobody would pay because we are all cheap asses. Then the day comes and you spent even more time and money to make displays and set up and even be there in the first place and… nobody wants to pay the lower prices either and you totally bomb. Your confidence that you barely had to start with is crushed, your time and money wasted… everything is in bins and piles in your garage and you are back to square one. Still stuck in a dead end job that is getting you nowhere and making you absolutely miserable, no step closer to moving forward in your life, and still no escape route.


Does anybody have an answer to this? LOL. Sadly, this is my life. I am in this place in my life. I built what I thought was going to be a lucrative and fun business and it has blown up in my face like a volcano. I spent so much time buying fabric and ribbon and thread and everything that goes with it and display stuff and I sold three bows and three bibs and two outfits out of the 100s I have made and all the stuff is sitting in my garage.. wasting space along with all the other stuff that it wasted. I wish I could say that my life was put together and that I had all the answers and all the ingredients to the recipes but in the long run, I am running short on my life goals.

I decided to finally (after almost a year) sit down and take pictures of every bib I made and upload them to the etsy store that I created so long ago that sat empty in preparation for this sale that bombed so hard. Long story short I am trying to make lemonade out of lemons. The goal for this blog after all is to help me sell my crafts and such so that I can quit this job and still bring in the income that I need to keep my family afloat. The moral of this sob story is that even when you have your heart broken and dreams crushed, you have only failed if you stop trying. Do you think that Rome was built in a day? Do you think that the first person who decided to take power got everyone to follow them the moment he decided that he was going to be a leader? Do you think that the first time you try something it is guaranteed to be a success? Absolutely NOT!

Not only does this apply to my business venture and the fact that Tuesday is the motivational day of the week for me, it applies to anything in life. When it all falls down, take a moment to assess the damage and build it back up. It took me over a year to actually add items to the etsy shop that I created which you can find HERE. Things will eventually get better. I dont care what religion you actually practice… we each have a God figure. You will never be given more than you can handle. Your time in the spotlight will come which is why it is always important to never give up when things get hard. I have found a photo that matches this situation perfectly and it always had a place in the back of my mind when I am going through something troubling.


The man on the bottom of this photo is over worked and tired of trying. He literally has to hack away at the wall for like 5 more minutes and the diamonds will come tumbling down on his head yet he has given up because it was hard. The man on the top is clearly determined and is so far but so close with no end in sight… he will be the one to reach success. The man on the bottom will continue all his life in this pattern where he begins something and then gives up when it gets hard OR he will never begin anything again for fear of defeat AGAIN. Little does he know that he was his own saboteur.

Remember this photo next time you are feeling down. Every day when I go to work after being passed over for two promotions.. and other lengthy drama-like details, I think of this picture. Maybe my time with the diamonds is coming? You should think of life this way too.. I promise it will make you feel so much better to wake up with good thoughts on your mind even if your day goes sour afterwards. You will be more tempted to make positive choices and decisions to lead you in a better direction.


Have a good night! See you soon!! ❤

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Motivational Thoughts…

I have always wondered why I can not follow through with things. Then one day it hit me. I have no self confidence, I have no self esteem, I have no faith in my abilities. I have been raised to just let life wash over me like a tidal wave and take it.. drowning and choking on sea life all the while. I know better as an adult who has been through so much but sometimes it is hard to pull your mind from that dark place. Sometimes you cant see the light at the end of the tunnel. Sometimes those things you know you can do.. seem like you can never figure them out…. Dont listen to those voices.

I recently started a hobby that I posted a sneak peak sort of tease blog about called Pour Painting. I have always loved mixed media abstract art and I finally learned a little something. I looked at my finished pieces and thought to myself “wow I cant believe I made this”… WHAT?! Who says that? Like I am not good enough to do something like that? Have mercy… Please if you ever feel down on yourself and like you are not good enough, dont listen to the voices that whisper that you can never do it, that you wont make it, that you cant get it done, that it wont happen… dont listen


You are strong, you are powerful, you are driven, and you will go far!


If nobody else tells you about your worth, you can meet me here at least once a week foe me to tell you that you are somebody and you mean something to somebody.. without my son, I would have never had this person to tell me these things in my life so I would like to pass it on!


Have a great day! Smile.. its beautiful on you!


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It’s Tuesday

Originally my idea was to do motivational posts on Tuesdays. Lol. Im a failure at life most of the time as you will see if you stick around here but i am super freaking creative, i have so much love to spread and my intentions are good. Anyways… more to the point… i wanted to come on here and go ahead and give somebody out there struggling a little bit of motivation.
I can honestly say i HATE people who say that there is always someone out there that has it worse than you. They can go choke on a pretzel and die, i mean that from the bottom of my heart. I dont subscribe to christianity…. and there went all the chances i ever had of having any followers, but one thing that i appreciate is the thought that “god never gives you more than you can handle” so to someone that you are telling someone has something worse…. do you see that you are inflicting verbal abuse on them? That is all they can handle that is the worst pain they know so dont you dare take that from them. I have decided that at some point i may need to change the name of this blog because this is much more the type of topic i know oh too well. Anyways… i want you all to know out there that you always have my email on the contact page or my comment section to talk to me about what ever you are going through if you feel you have nobody else. Whether your deepest hurt is your cat dying or your phone got taken away, or you have been through some sort of abuse or assult, stress, death, anything…. you will find a way out of it. You can be happy. I can tell you from years of bad decisions and stupid mistakes and constant failure that you have to make changes within yourself to move forward. I have been telling myself that i am going to do this blog, i am going to get another job, i am going to lose weight, i am going to move, i am going to get my licence, i am going to do this or that… and it never happens because i get the great idea and just keep thinking it.. it has to be done! You cant say you want to build a bridge and expect it to show up the next day. I learned that i had to take steps for things to happen. The embarrassment of starting this blog and having two posts up.. even one post about all the content i want to cover and then nothing else to show… motivated me to continue once i started! Just like that, i might not post every day but when i get the chance to sit down and write things out and organize my thoughts, i end up with blog posts. No they arent as good as i want them to be, they dont match my name, they dont look as fancy as other bloggers, i dont know how to post my adds and how to have my affiliate links up etc but i will because now that I have forced myself into this thing that i have wanted, i have to keep up!
Moral of the story: no matter what you want, what you are trying to do or whatever… PLEASE NEVER GIVE UP! Keep pushing forward until there is nowhere else to go, until you have to set new goals for yourself to accomplish. Keep pushing! I am here for anyone, i have been through enough that i can pretty much relate to anyone in almost any situation and even if i couldnt, i have the shoulder to cry on and the ear to listen. Keep smiling no matter how deep the pain, keep pushing no matter how heavy the obstacle, and keep climbing no matter how high the goal! Don’t let anyone steel the sun from your sky.


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Tuesday Motivation 

My motivational posts are normally inspired by a quote or a graphic or both.. yesterday, I stumbled upon this in my phone. I have posted it on Instagram and I decided to revisit it.

Today I was thinking about a weight loss motivation post but as I read this quote it can apply to life in general as well. It is important to make changes in behavior if you expect to have changes showing in end results. You can not keep repeating the same bad habits and expect things to change. You do have to put your mind to a change but you may also apply physical action for results. When I began my weight loss journey, I kept saying “tomorrow I will start this liver shrinking diet” and then by the time I checked back into this weight loss thing I fancied myself doing, it had been an entire month and I had only lost one pound that was probably urine and had no results to show for my “you can do anything you put your mind to”. Here I am in a new month again, still with nothing to show but this time I made moves. I bought the food I should have been eating instead of putting it off. I cut the fruit, I made the salad, I mixed the protein drink, I even taught my son how to mix the protein drink for himself. 

A long story short… you CAN do anything you put your mind to with the right action plan. Sit down, make a plan, pick a day to start, and do it! Grab the bull by the horns! I promise you that you will feel so much better about yourself. It doesn’t have to be about weight loss it could be about getting a new job, a savings plan, anything… plan it out and do! Nike really knew what they were doing with the tag line ” Just Do It”. 

”Spend eighty percent of your time focusing on the opportunities of tomorrow rather than the problems of yesterday.”

– Brian Tracy


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