Build Yourself Back Up When It’s All Falling Down…

What do you do when you find something you are good at and put your all into it and spend so much money to see it prosper and work so hard to see it grown and set a date to put your hard work on display for everybody and price it too low because what it is really worth… nobody would pay because we are all cheap asses. Then the day comes and you spent even more time and money to make displays and set up and even be there in the first place and… nobody wants to pay the lower prices either and you totally bomb. Your confidence that you barely had to start with is crushed, your time and money wasted… everything is in bins and piles in your garage and you are back to square one. Still stuck in a dead end job that is getting you nowhere and making you absolutely miserable, no step closer to moving forward in your life, and still no escape route.


Does anybody have an answer to this? LOL. Sadly, this is my life. I am in this place in my life. I built what I thought was going to be a lucrative and fun business and it has blown up in my face like a volcano. I spent so much time buying fabric and ribbon and thread and everything that goes with it and display stuff and I sold three bows and three bibs and two outfits out of the 100s I have made and all the stuff is sitting in my garage.. wasting space along with all the other stuff that it wasted. I wish I could say that my life was put together and that I had all the answers and all the ingredients to the recipes but in the long run, I am running short on my life goals.

I decided to finally (after almost a year) sit down and take pictures of every bib I made and upload them to the etsy store that I created so long ago that sat empty in preparation for this sale that bombed so hard. Long story short I am trying to make lemonade out of lemons. The goal for this blog after all is to help me sell my crafts and such so that I can quit this job and still bring in the income that I need to keep my family afloat. The moral of this sob story is that even when you have your heart broken and dreams crushed, you have only failed if you stop trying. Do you think that Rome was built in a day? Do you think that the first person who decided to take power got everyone to follow them the moment he decided that he was going to be a leader? Do you think that the first time you try something it is guaranteed to be a success? Absolutely NOT!

Not only does this apply to my business venture and the fact that Tuesday is the motivational day of the week for me, it applies to anything in life. When it all falls down, take a moment to assess the damage and build it back up. It took me over a year to actually add items to the etsy shop that I created which you can find HERE. Things will eventually get better. I dont care what religion you actually practice… we each have a God figure. You will never be given more than you can handle. Your time in the spotlight will come which is why it is always important to never give up when things get hard. I have found a photo that matches this situation perfectly and it always had a place in the back of my mind when I am going through something troubling.


The man on the bottom of this photo is over worked and tired of trying. He literally has to hack away at the wall for like 5 more minutes and the diamonds will come tumbling down on his head yet he has given up because it was hard. The man on the top is clearly determined and is so far but so close with no end in sight… he will be the one to reach success. The man on the bottom will continue all his life in this pattern where he begins something and then gives up when it gets hard OR he will never begin anything again for fear of defeat AGAIN. Little does he know that he was his own saboteur.

Remember this photo next time you are feeling down. Every day when I go to work after being passed over for two promotions.. and other lengthy drama-like details, I think of this picture. Maybe my time with the diamonds is coming? You should think of life this way too.. I promise it will make you feel so much better to wake up with good thoughts on your mind even if your day goes sour afterwards. You will be more tempted to make positive choices and decisions to lead you in a better direction.


Have a good night! See you soon!! ❤

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Motivational Thoughts…

I have always wondered why I can not follow through with things. Then one day it hit me. I have no self confidence, I have no self esteem, I have no faith in my abilities. I have been raised to just let life wash over me like a tidal wave and take it.. drowning and choking on sea life all the while. I know better as an adult who has been through so much but sometimes it is hard to pull your mind from that dark place. Sometimes you cant see the light at the end of the tunnel. Sometimes those things you know you can do.. seem like you can never figure them out…. Dont listen to those voices.

I recently started a hobby that I posted a sneak peak sort of tease blog about called Pour Painting. I have always loved mixed media abstract art and I finally learned a little something. I looked at my finished pieces and thought to myself “wow I cant believe I made this”… WHAT?! Who says that? Like I am not good enough to do something like that? Have mercy… Please if you ever feel down on yourself and like you are not good enough, dont listen to the voices that whisper that you can never do it, that you wont make it, that you cant get it done, that it wont happen… dont listen


You are strong, you are powerful, you are driven, and you will go far!


If nobody else tells you about your worth, you can meet me here at least once a week foe me to tell you that you are somebody and you mean something to somebody.. without my son, I would have never had this person to tell me these things in my life so I would like to pass it on!


Have a great day! Smile.. its beautiful on you!


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Top Benefits of Drinking Water

I had to learn about the good that water does for your body the hard way. I never used to drink water, I never wanted to drink water and it was like the last resort.. I am lactose intolerant and I would try to drink chocolate milk before a glass of water. I learned the importance when I first started my weight loss journey for the 4th time. LOL did you notice what I said there? For the 4th time?! LOL see, I’m not a quitter! I just cant follow through with anything… obviously because how many mondays should have been a “whats on the menu monday” and how many tuesdays should have been “motivation tuesdays” so far and I’ve only done one of each?! My shortfalls are not the point today. Today we are talking about water. Below will be an adapted list of the reasons that you should consider adding more water to your daily consumption or why it is a good thing that you have water as a big part of your food/beverage intake. I can for a fact say that it is probably what caused most of the weight loss for me during the military diet because I drank more water than anything because I was still hungry!


The Importance Of Water

Flushes out toxins- to go along with the statement below, there is the scientific answer and then there is my interpretation of it. Basically, the more water you take in, the more your body flushes your system through sweating or urination and this takes all the toxins out with it.

Boosts your immune system- long story short.. #waterislife. We all know that I am not a scientist and you can google everything that I have said here so I am sure that you can google how it boosts your immune system but the most important part to take away from all the science stuff is that if you drink plenty of water, you will help your body to fight off infections and diseases.

Promotes weight loss- as you know, your body is 70% water and your brain is 90% water. When you go through your day and use up the water for energy and sweat etc, the water needs to be replaced to keep a constant cycle going. I found during the military diet that the water that I was drinking during the day curbed my hunger and made it so that I could eat later on instead of the little portion and then starving all day. I am pretty sure that the amount of water that you drink to make yourself not feel the hunger is what caused my weight loss!

Improves skin condition- I have noticed that my skin is much clearer when I am drinking water than it is when I “fall off the wagon” and drink some soda or tea. I have less breakouts and my skin is more combination than oily. I guess because I am going to have combination skin anyway but when I am drinking sugary things, my skin is mostly oily. The only breakouts I get now are attributed to that time of the month or stress and when I say stress, I mean like “OMG if I dont do something this is going to explode.. or blah blah will die or I will crash into a wall” LMAO long story short.. if its not news worthy it doesnt break me out.

Helps maintain regularity- This is another place where I will go into personal details which it may be a little TMI so you can scroll past if you must. I had a period of about a year where I unknowingly poisoned my body daily. I was constantly every day drinking “add water” Lipton Tea powder in a plastic deer park water bottle.. the same one.. every day.. all day… for a month. I developed some sort of condition where swallowing water, a drink, tea, and food would send me to the bathroom IMMEDIATELY! I couldnt eat out, eat during a road trip, or anything and yes liquid also had me in the bathroom.. not urinating! NEVER reuse disposable water bottles! I had no idea! If anyone reading this has ever had  RNY surgery and knows what dumping syndrome is… picture my life hell. After I realized that there was mold in the bottle and under the cap ( which I wish I would have seen way long before). I stopped drinking out of the bottle and started mixing the tea in a glass but at that point I guess it was too late and the damage was done to my body. For 5 years, I struggled with constant diarrhea and sensitivity to eating food. Since starting my weight loss journey… you know.. for the 4th time, I have been able to regulate everything with the addition of  drinking water. This doesnt mean one glass a day either!

Prevents headaches and migraines- I could tell you scientific facts here but this part hits so close to home, I will use my own personal story here. I suffer from severe migraines to which I have prescription drugs to help me function in life while I am in a never ending migraine tunnel. I used to get migraines OFTEN. Sometimes, I would get a migraine and it would stay for a week or up to two weeks at full force. I would be nauseous or throw up, cant eat, cant sleep OR all i do is sleep, angry, sad, and a mix of 100 other emotions because it is pure pain. Probably why my pain tolerance is so high. I dealt with this for so many years of my life. This 4th time starting my weight loss journey that I keep speaking about is because I actually started doing the right things this time. I started drinking water! I bought 1,000 bottles that were cute to put my water in because I like for things to be aesthetically pleasing to keep my attention and I actually make a conscious effort to drink the water! I have not had a bad migraine in about 2 years EXCEPT for this one week which was actually 4 weeks ago when I was VERY stressed out and no amount of medication or water wanted to help me. That is beside the point. If I would have paid attention, I could have cleared this issue for myself long ago! DRINK YOUR WATER!! 

Increases energy- Along with the response below on the brain, the lack of fatigue allows you to have increased energy when your body feels good from the clean natural water as opposed to teas, coffees, sugars and any combination of the three.

Relieves fatigue- Your brain is made up of mostly water. The constant replenishing of water in your body helps to allow you to think and concentrate better.


Your body needs the water to cycle at all times. This is the moral of the story. Water is life. Without water our bodies would not survive. Drink more water.. lose some weight on accident and send me your before and after photos to smile at! 


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